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Why marriage is a must !,

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Sunday, November 1, 2009 09:42 AM 

I sometimes really get confused on the subject, and ask myself if one does not want to get married, will he be a looser on the doomes day, will he be questioned about it i qabar, will it fall anyway a violation of Allah's commandments.Just take it as a light debate and come forward with your opinions,and if someone could explain in the context of Islam that how hard our religion stesses upon it.I personally think its more a social obligation than a religious one, at least in present times.

my 2 rupees replied on Sunday, November 1, 2009 10:06 AM 

Please do what is best for you. Don't worry about religion. Use your own mind and heart. That is what your mind and heart are for. Follow your path and that will be good enough.

my opinion replied on Sunday, November 1, 2009 10:47 AM 

I think its the pressure induced by the society that forces us to go for it.Islam says you get marry once you are adolescent but how many of us follow it.In cities specifically, people try to avoid it to the maximum and late marriages and its implications are a norm.The moment a girl enters her late twenties, she and her parents start getting worried about her, as pressure starts mounting from the relatives to marry her as she is now getting late.Same is the case with boys.As far as he is earning good, nobody minds his age and he can go well above 35 comfortably, yet get a reasonable match.His parents never bother for him when he is around 20, what is required as per Islam.

Walid replied on Sunday, November 1, 2009 10:52 AM 

Dear Zarar,

I am not an Islamic scholar but the fact is that Islam is a universal religion and its teachings are to the very best benefit of humanity.

Marriage not only teaches one discipline as how to live peacefully with your partner/relatives/extended family but also protects you for so many evils. Moroever,it makes you to work hard to grow and develop a family who shall prove to be an asset for your religion and society.

Today's young generation takes it as an unwelcome challenge but it is mainly due to fear of the unknown,lack of tolerance and one can easily over come it by holding counselling sessions with experts.Just check search engine and millions are enjoying married life after they had proper counselling/treatment.

I hope,my note has not offended you or readers in any way.

Let others write too as this topic is v important for young generation.

A PAKISTANI replied on Sunday, November 1, 2009 11:24 AM 

Dear Brothers,

We must beelieve that there is nothing in Islam against the logic or against human nature. whatever is mentioned in Quran, and done and instructed by our beloved Prohet (pbuh) is full of wisdom. It is better for us to follow as is, instead of trying something which may lead to wrong path (God forbid).
The problems your are referring in our society, are just because we are not adopting and implementing the religion in tru faith.

Un-married Mulana Disco replied on Sunday, November 1, 2009 11:49 AM 

Only Un-Married people will go to Heaven.

Pardesi, Jeddah replied on Sunday, November 1, 2009 12:48 PM 

Hadith Nabawi (SAW:

Volume 7, Book 62, Number 1:

Narrated Anas bin Malik:

A group of three men came to the houses of the wives of the Prophet asking how the Prophet worshipped (Allah), and when they were informed about that, they considered their worship insufficient and said, "Where are we from the Prophet as his past and future sins have been forgiven." Then one of them said, "I will offer the prayer throughout the night forever." The other said, "I will fast throughout the year and will not break my fast." The third said, "I will keep away from the women and will not marry forever." Allah's Apostle came to them and said, "Are you the same people who said so-and-so? By Allah, I am more submissive to Allah and more afraid of Him than you; yet I fast and break my fast, I do sleep and I also marry women. So he who does not follow my tradition in religion, is not from me (not one of my followers)."

The Quran has discussed all issues of Nikkah & Talaq in so much detail that it becomes evidently clear to everybody how much importance Allah is associating with marriages & Guiding them to remain in Nikkah & how much it is closed to the human nature of their basic instinct which Allah has bestowed upon His creatures.

The history from the day one till yesterday is evident the negetive impact of going against the nature.

health replied on Sunday, November 1, 2009 05:42 PM 

If you are Emasculate (namard) person you must not get married i wish there should be 5 year jail for that person
Also if you have HIV or AIDS or hepatitis C or with no sperm or any dangerous symptom don’t get married
If you are bipolar behavior or have woman mentality inform first .

usman rwp replied on Sunday, November 1, 2009 06:27 PM 

Nice name unmarried mulana disco
Zarar if you are alright and a normal muslim you must get married.This what Quran says, if you have good health, desire and resources you can have four at a time.but let me add some thing else,Hazrart Essa PBUH never got married(he was blessed with clean soul/spirit), there are some other examples, of wali Allah who either did not marry or later abondened all the luxuries of life including family(Hazrat Ibrahim Udham was a king).One has to be very accurate in self assessment if this is the case must find guidance from a very pious person or you will eventually destroy yourself.
If you tell you actual motives can guide you better.
Regards usman

usman rwp replied on Sunday, November 1, 2009 06:39 PM 

Dear brother Perdesi apostle is a word usually used for disciples of Hazrat Essa/jesus christ PBUH .Please guide.
Regards usman

usman rwp replied on Sunday, November 1, 2009 06:54 PM 

Just for fun sake
HEALTH .After ensuring your own health MUST make sure.Lady is not frigid/frozen, does not have herpes or any other vgnl disease, overies and tubes are ok etc etc.
just kidding,
regards

Pardesi, Jeddah replied on Monday, November 2, 2009 05:19 AM 

Dear Usman

Apostle means anyone who carries a message - the messanger. In Arabic "Al-Rasool". For reference
http://translate.reference.com/translate? query=Apostle&src=en&dst=ar&v=1.0

Yes the word has also been used for the disciples which is in context that they carried the message of Hazrat Essa (AS).

Observer replied on Monday, November 2, 2009 08:07 AM 

Dont go too heavy on religion. Follow your heart as long as you dont hurt someone. It really is no one's business if you choose to marry or not. Dont let any Proper Alim make you believe its a crime against humanity if you did not marry or produce 200 children.

usman rwp replied on Monday, November 2, 2009 10:26 AM 

just for fun sake
Health.Bipolar is a common disease(both sexes).ENSURE the lady does not have tendency/behavior to become a man sometimes,(or be ready for the beatings .lols).Advice check for traces of mustaches on her mothers face,old punjabi saying like mother like daughter.
regards and no offence to female gender.

AM replied on Monday, November 2, 2009 01:58 PM 

Assalam-u-Alaikum wr wb:

“And marry those among you who are single (i.e. a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the Saalihoon (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid‑servants (female slaves). If they be poor, Allaah will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allaah is All‑Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All‑Knowing (about the state of the people)”

[al-Noor 24:32]


The basic principle is that it is mustahabb to hasten to get married for the one
who is able for that, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it helps him to lower
his gaze and protect his chastity. And whoever cannot do that, let him fast, for it will
be a protection for him.”.
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5065) and Muslim (1400).

limo replied on Monday, November 2, 2009 02:44 PM 

Few jokes might help one understand how it appears once through to it!
1.A boy asks his father, daddy how much does it cost to get married? Father replies, "i dont know dear, i am still paying"
2.A man got his credit card stollen and when asked by a friend that why dont you register a complaint about it in police replied "i dont want to get it back because the one who has stollen is spending much less than my wife used to"
3.When a newly married couple smiles, everyone knows why, but when a ten years married couple smiles, everyone wonders why!
4. Your dog is barking at one door while your wife is yelling at the other door. Whom would you let in first?To my dog because once he comes inside, he will be quiet.

anwar replied on Tuesday, November 3, 2009 06:05 AM 

A jok for mr Limo it seems he like jokes alot. A man had a very caring and loving wife. Once he asked to God, Why did you make his wife so beautiful? God Said Coz You could love her. then He asked why did you make her so caring and loving, God replied coz you could love her. Then he Asked why did you make her very good cook? God said coz you could love her. At end he asked God! i am not ungrateful to you but i just want to know why did u make her so stupid. God Replied coz she could love you.

limo replied on Tuesday, November 3, 2009 08:38 AM 

anwar you forgot to tell that this man were you lol :)

anwar replied on Tuesday, November 3, 2009 01:18 PM 

Limo jee that man can be me or can be u too. it refere to all men if u able to under stand. cheers
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